@prologic@twtxt.net I too, self-host various services on a VPS (and considering buying a mini PC to keep at home instead).
I use most of it as a hosting platform for personal use only and as a remote development environment (I do share a couple of tools with a friend though).
But given the costant risks of DDoS, hacking, bots, etc. I keep any of my public facing resources purely static and on separate hosting providers (without lock-ins of course).
Lately, I began using homebrew PWAs with CouchDB as a sync database, this way I get a fantastic local-first experience and also have total control of my data, that also sync in a locally hosted backup instance in real-time.
Also, I was already aware of Salty.im, but what I’m thinking is a more feature complete solution that even my family can use quickly, Delta.chat with the new chatmail provider (self-hostable) might be the solution for my needs.
But I’m still thinking if it’s worth the trouble. I might just drop everything and only use safe channels to speak with them (free 24/7 family tech-support is easy to manage 😆).
Also, I’ll be waiting for the day you’ll share with us your story, I’m pretty curious about it!